Read it carefully and tell me which dumper is he and then u got the answer. They won't dump you to begin with. Unfortunately they act this way only towards the dumpee. We tried for a month or 6 weeks or so, but it took only a couple weeks before the lieing started again, and the bad attitude and games came back. Yes those who dump you do try and come back the time frame is different for everyone but here is my story. I think usually if they come back it is because they truly love that person & theyve spent some time away from them only to realize they actually do want that person in their life. Mine clearly hasnt because he has not come back. Anonymous I knew someone who: had an affair, divorced his wife, married the other woman, after a few years divorced the other woman, courted and remarried the original wife. They say and do things out of self-defense to protect themselves from emotional pain. It often depends on why you broke up, how much time has passed, whether you were madly in love, or if he has a feeling of relief now that the relationship is over. I know some dumpers regret their decision and some dont. Hopefully the dumpees out there can think about this situation when trying to move on. There’s a good chance he’ll miss you over time. Exes come back for themselves, n ot you! My ex broke up with me almost 1 month ago . They walk all over you, and the second you stand up for yourself again, they're gone. If I wasn't in such a bad situation (long story), I never would have asked her to try again (falsely thinking we were both REALLY stressed and just havin a low point in our lives). Yeah agree with this - women dumpers have come back to me. Our relationship was as perfect as perfect could get for over a year. If he wanted to come back badly enough, regardless of pride or any other issues, I think he would?? If he said he came back to you because he doesn’t love his new partner or feels incredibly depressed without you, chances are you would reject him. Subject: Dumpers, what made you come back/reconcile after a long period of time? But he has to make his choice freely. Dumper 2- he dumps you coz he's not getting what he think he deserves or he found someone better or he fell out of love or he's not happy anymore with u. When you're the dumper, you carry responsibility for the other person's emotions. As the dumper, it took me weeks to know what I need from my ex, for us to get back together. 1. divorced (as dumpee) and ex came back around twice (and got super bitter when I stopped chasing and was truly happy and in a great place). Someone who actually loves and appreciates you will not dump you and come back. 2. My ex who dumped me, tried to come back around after almost a year, but at the time I was interested in someone new & wanted to see what he had to offer. ***** -Rain 10 month relationship (I was dumper) and with the exception of a few days of begging me she went NC and I have not heard a peep from her in 6 months almost (and I am not affected at all by that). I've never really dumped anyone. Dumpers feel rejection too, and are often confused. It is not uncommon to receive a strange out-of-the-blue call from the dumper a few weeks, months or even years down the line. As I mentioned previously, our best chance for the dumper to come back comes after a significant amount of time, when they realize fully what life is like without us. Only to end things again. Guys that belongs to Dumper 2 will not contact u unless they feel lonely and ur the spare tire. The dumpers temporarily become unrecognizable to the dumpees as they seem as if they have transformed into different people. 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